Menopause causes many women to experience a difficult range of symptoms, some of which last for years.

Understanding the basics of what menopause is, its key symptoms and some helpful ways to manage it can help men become more equipped to offer empathy and support.

Menopause is the time in life when menstruation, commonly known as periods, stops. It tends to happen between the mid-forties and fifties. In the lead-up to menopause, the ovaries gradually start to produce less estrogen, which means they release fewer eggs. Periods may change in their regularity and intensity before they stop altogether.

These natural changes in a woman's hormones cause a whole range of physical symptoms and mood changes: vaginal dryness, concentration and memory problems, difficulty sleeping, hot flushes and night sweats, low mood, mood swings, depression or anxiety, and weight gain.

How can I help?

Even though you probably won’t have all the answers, showing a female close to you that you’re there for her and she isn’t alone can make a world of difference.

Regular movement and exercise are one way to help manage some of the symptoms, such as an increased risk of heart disease, slower metabolism, weight gain, and low mood. Everyone has a different relationship with exercise, and if your loved one finds it difficult to stay motivated, why not offer to be a workout buddy, join a cycling club together, or go on some long weekend walks?

If you are a partner or close family member going through menopause, consider ways to help them improve their sleep cycle. You can join them in trying to avoid phone, laptop, or tablet screens an hour before bed, as they disrupt sleep quality. Or you might consider changing their usual bedding to something lighter if they're experiencing hot flashes. They may want or need to sleep apart from you for a period of time – if so, remember that it's not because they don't want to be with you.

Communication is key during the menopause period. As your partner is going through changes, so are you! Everyone experiences inevitable changes that come with getting older, no matter their gender. Sharing your own experience with ageing — and listening to hers — can be key to strengthening your bond and intimacy. Be open about how you’re feeling while respecting her privacy. Keeping open, judgment-free channels of communication between you and your partner is a great way to prevent either of you from feeling distant or isolated from each other.

Be empathetic. Along with the biological changes, the emotions surrounding menopause can be difficult. By standing in her shoes, you'll be better able to be supportive about the changes.

Roll with the intimacy changes. Vaginal dryness and a decreased sex drive can all accompany menopause due to decreasing estrogenic levels. Having less natural lubrication can lead to painful and inflamed intimate tissues and pain during sex that didn’t used to be there.

Let her know that you’re here for her and happy to support her and talk about these changes. With patience and kindness, you both can get back to a satisfying sex life.

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